Let’s say a very close friend of yours is into a business, (could be catering, designing, styling, etc) and you know that he/she is not really good at it. Then you have a special event: would you patronize this friend of yours out of loyalty, or would you engage someone else who is more competent to do the job? And if you choose to hire someone else or use their services, would you be betraying your friend?
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If the person is not yet refined and there’s something special, given the fact that you may be, by extension, rendering the service to others as well, it’s justifiable that you use a more competent service outlet.
There are other ways you can also support that friend’s business.
A lot of friends will not see it in this light, honestly.
We need to tell our friends the truth at all times(there’re ways to go about these things)You shouldn’t wait till u need dt service to tell dt friend she’s not good at what she does because not patronizing her will only deliver the message you’ve been avoiding.My point is,It is wrong to watch someone you call a friend do something he/she is not good at without any effort to make them realize it.
Nailed📌
I would get someone competent to do the job, because we all want the best for ourselves truth be told.
And I think we should stop that attitude of saying “na me go tell her say she no Sabi? 🤷
Will that friendship survive like that?
I would should someone competent, please there’re some events you can’t even joke around with. My friend may not understand but her feelings is justifiable, I would definitely patronise her, but not for big, important or a one time events.
Nailed📌
Getting someone competent is not a bad idea… And not patronizing your friend cos he/she is not competent enough doesn’t mean betrayal, asides patronage there are other ways to helping a friend develop his or her skills.
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I will go for someone who is more competent in the job instead of risking my special events.
That’s not betrayal, I’m going for an excellent results.
Alright!
Patronizing a professional is better , not patronizing your friend isn’t betrayal. Remember you said a special event, so your event needs to get the best service
Hm, okay.
I will engage someone that is competent for d job, I can’t let loyalty ruin my day or our friendship
Not letting it ruin your special day is one thing, but the friendship…
I would actually go with someone who is more competent based on the fact that I wouldn’t want anything substandard. I feel this doesn’t determine how loyal you are. Obviously, I would give them all the necessary support but not at the peril of my event.
How else would you support if not patronage?
Encourage them to learn more about the skill, prolly also support monetary wise.
That friend of mine would already know that she is still in the learning process(cause I will tell her) then me getting a professional wouldn’t feel like a betrayal cause we both know where her skills lies.
This is one good angle.
Hiring someone else that is competent does not mean am betraying a friend, I can only encourage my friend to become more competent in her business
Encouraging is good
I would go for the competent person because her incompetence may cause problem for us at the end.
But would not using her service cause problem for you both at the end?
I will be open to her by telling her the truth , by doing so I believe I’m helping her to do better and upgrading in the business,so in my opinion I’m not hiring her, like you mentioned catering and styling in this, the job involve others not me alone so the right thing to do is giving it to a professional.
Exactly
Every individual want to be satisfied irrespective of who gets hurt in the process. No wonder why people tend to go for the best rather than their friend’s. There’s an old adage that goes: ‘even if my mother makes a good soap,when I see a better one that wash better, I’ll rather go for that one that wash better’.
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It’s the adage for me😂
Friendship built can end because of this. To be professional (in the case of referral) I’ll hire the service of some one competent. But if it’s mine, I’ll let her do the best she can and also provide her with all the help she can get. Although it may not be professional like the skilled one, but Rome wasn’t built in a day and with time, she will definitely improve in her skills. If she’s wise and intelligent enough, she will understand my intentions.
“friendship built can end because of this”📌
To be on the safe side, i will employ a professional or better still it depends on the budget for the service. If it’s my own personal event i will give it to my friend.
Sometimes it’s not that bad to give our friends a chance.
I will go for someone who is more competent for the job…..
I can’t see dat as a betrayal cuz we all want the best for ourselves
But how will your friend see it?