A Continuation of A Walk Down The Abyss…
Lois made a choice not to have another child for a husband who didn’t care about her and the one they already had together, and when she had had enough, she took the bold step and left the marriage.
He was cheating on her with the ex-girlfriend he really loved and a bunch of other women too, was abusive to her, did not take his responsibility as a husband to her seriously, and was extremely clingy to his mother. Leaving was a big step for Lois, especially being that a lot of Nigerian women would prefer to stay in unhealthy marriages than face the stigma of being a “divorcee” or “single mother.”
After Lois left the marriage, and till now, her ex-husband has not made any move to contact her or her family to check on his daughter nor has any of his family members, so basically, the full responsibility of caring for the baby they both made fell heavily on her shoulders.
Fortunately for Lois, she got a decent job that helped her provide for both her needs and those of her child, and they currently live in an apartment that she can afford.
Recently, Lois reconnected with her ex-boyfriend, whom we will call Dave.
Lois and Dave were in a relationship before she met her ex-husband, but she ditched him for a man who was ready for marriage even though she was still a student at that time. According to her, she was afraid that Dave would end up not marrying her, and so she did not want to throw away the bird at hand for the one in the bush.
Years later now, social media brought them back together; Lois, a single divorced mother, and Dave, a married man with kids.
It started out as a friendship, but their conversations stretched, and they found themselves always talking and chatting. Dave also lived in Abuja, so distance wasn’t even an issue for them. Dragging them down memory lane, Dave told Lois how much he loved her and would have married her instead if she hadn’t dumped him. He was hurt and heartbroken after she left, leading him to marry his present wife.
He confessed that he still loved Lois; he never stopped loving her, which means that he isn’t in love with his wife.
Lois on the other hand, admitted that she made a grave mistake choosing her ex-husband over Dave who later turned out to be her worst nightmare. Dave knew that she had a daughter from her previous marriage, but he didn’t really care. Besides, he also has a wife and kids.
They grew closer and closer, and soon enough, Dave started visiting her in the apartment she rented for herself and her daughter.
He also began to shower her with gifts and money, and also provided as much as he could for Lois and her daughter. On her birthday, he asked her to mention anything at all that she wanted, and when Lois told him, he wasted no time in getting them and delivering them to her doorstep through a dispatch rider.
Life was good for Lois, and she was happy.
Her friend, who always visited and knew about Dave’s visits and gifts, advised her to stay away. It wasn’t fair that she was doing to Dave’s wife exactly what her ex-husband’s ex-girlfriend had done to her.
“He is now married. The best thing to do is leave him alone so that he can focus on his family. When your ex-husband went back to his girlfriend, and as a result, treated you like trash, you were hurt and heartbroken,” her friend had advised her. “In fact, part of the reason the marriage didn’t work was because of her. Now, you are doing the same thing to another woman and it is not right,” she had added.
But all that fell on deaf ears.
Lois was single, and even though she had a job, things weren’t exactly rosy. The economy of the country was tough and there would always be a need, so if a man who didn’t mind throwing in financial support was giving her attention, regardless of the fact that he married, why should she?
In Lois’s exact words, “His wife and I will share him together.”
Till now, they are still seeing each other, and Lois is having the best time of her life. She could care less about how Dave is treating his wife at home or how she might be feeling emotionally…that is if she has found out.
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She should listen to her friend before it is too late for her. The more she keeps receiving gifts and attention from him, the more she will get too attached and she will find it difficult to leave him.
They should stay away from each other🤷♀️
Please marry who you’re in love with 🤦🏽♂️
So that we can all have peace😩
Please marry who you’re in love with 🤦🏽♂️
May God bless us with a friend like Lois’s—someone who will remind us when we’re straying from the right path. As for Lois, I truly don’t know what to say. If she can allow another woman to endure what she once went through, without remorse, then it seems she learned nothing from her previous marriage. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Even if many of us don’t fully believe in it, karma still works.
My thoughts exactly! What she went through with her ex-husband didn’t teach her anything. There is no moral justification for her actions.
Good
That’s one thing with relationships; ‘until the person decides’. Unfortunately, Lois’s friend can only do so much until Lois decides to leave him (or maybe not). I’ll be here for it 🙃.
Or the man also decides to leave her and focus on his family🤷♀️
Lois should leave another woman’s husband alone.She should have empathy for Dave’s wife
Exactly! She knew how broken she was when it happened to her, so why is she trying to cause another woman the same pain?
Never do to others what you don’t want others to do to you…
This is one of the reasons she left her marriage and now she is doing same to her fellow woman.
That’s the circle of life☹️